Free co-parenting emergency checklist
The Transparent Shield Protocol:
Is It an Emergency?
Run the free co-parenting emergency checklist — the three-tier system that removes the moment of frozen panic, the one where you are not sure if you are overreacting or under-reacting, and replaces it with a clear, documented decision and the exact next action to take.
Run the checklist below. Your tier result and the full PDF appear at the end.
The Emergency Red Flag Checklist
Check what applies. Count your tiers.
Know exactly what to do next.
Work through the tiers in order. Check every item that is clearly and currently present — not something that happened once months ago. Any Tier 3 item checked means stop and act now.
These items alone may not move a court — but a pattern of them will. Increase your daily documentation now. Run this checklist again in 7 days. The Transparent Shield Protocol gives you the exact documentation structure that makes these patterns legally recognisable over time.
Do not wait. Document the incident in full today — observable facts only, no interpretations — and contact your attorney within 24 to 48 hours. The Transparent Shield Protocol includes the 48-Hour Action Plan and the court-ready documentation templates for exactly this situation.
Call 911 first if there is immediate physical danger. Do not wait. After your children are safe, call your attorney and document every action you take with times and outcomes. Emergency contacts are included in the full checklist PDF below.
The checklist showed you your tier.
The Transparent Shield Protocol gives you the system to respond to it.
The complete documentation and communication system for high-conflict co-parenting — what to record, how to respond, how to hold boundaries, and what to do in the first 60 seconds when something concerning happens.
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Is this for you
This checklist is for a specific moment
Not every difficult day in co-parenting is an emergency. This is for the moment when you genuinely cannot tell whether you are overreacting or under-reacting.
This is for you if
- Something just happened and you do not know whether to document it or act immediately
- You have frozen before in the moment, unsure if you were overreacting
- You need a fast, structured way to decide what tier a situation falls into
- You want to know exactly what to do next, not just whether something is “concerning”
- You are building a documentation habit and need to know what belongs in it
This is not for you if
- You are in immediate danger right now — call 911 first, then come back to this
- Your co-parenting relationship is genuinely cooperative and in good faith
- You want this checklist to replace legal advice rather than support it
From parents who used the checklist
They knew exactly what to do next
“I had one Tier 2 item and froze for an hour not knowing if I was overreacting. The checklist told me clearly: contact my attorney within 24 to 48 hours. Having that clear instruction instead of just my own anxious uncertainty was the difference between freezing and acting.”
“Running through Tier 1 made me realise how much I had been normalising. Five items checked, none of them individually alarming, but together they were a clear pattern. I started documenting that day instead of waiting for something bigger to happen.”
Who made this
S.J.Howe
I write about the psychological and strategic mechanics of high-conflict separation because understanding the mechanism is what changes outcomes. This checklist is free because knowing your tier is the starting point. The Transparent Shield Protocol is the full system that follows.
The course gives you the complete documentation and communication system — what to record, how to respond, how to hold boundaries, and exactly what to do in the first 60 seconds when something concerning happens.
Before you wonder
Three things people ask before running this
“What if I check a Tier 3 item but I’m not sure it’s really that serious?”
Tier 3 items are written narrowly and specifically for this reason. If you genuinely checked one honestly, treat it as real. The checklist is designed to remove second-guessing in the moment, not add to it — if it qualifies, the action is clear: safety first, then documentation and your attorney.
“I only have Tier 1 items. Is this checklist even relevant to me?”
Tier 1 alone is exactly where most high-conflict situations start, and exactly where most parents under-document because nothing feels urgent enough to act on individually. The pattern across Tier 1 items, documented consistently, is often what eventually becomes the evidence that matters.
“Is this legal advice, or does it replace talking to an attorney?”
No — this is a structured decision tool, not legal advice. What it does is tell you when to involve an attorney and how urgently, so you are not trying to make that judgment alone in a moment of stress. The Transparent Shield Protocol explicitly works alongside legal counsel, not instead of it.
Inside the course
Everything in The Transparent Shield Protocol
The checklist tells you your tier. The course gives you the complete documentation and communication system for high-conflict co-parenting.
You know something is wrong. The course gives you the structure to prove it. The checklist told you your tier. The Transparent Shield Protocol gives you the complete documentation system to build the evidence that makes invisible behaviour visible to the professionals who make decisions about your children’s lives.
Full course and all 7 parts included: $97
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