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Free no contact boundary audit

How Many Gaps Are Left
in Your Boundary?

Take the free no contact boundary audit — most no-contact boundaries fail not because of weak intentions, but because of specific technical gaps that make contact possible without either person fully realising it.

✓ Free scored audit ⏱ 20 gaps, 5 minutes ✉ Result in under 2 minutes
20 common contact loopholes across phone, email, social media, and physical channels
Risk level for each gap, high or medium, so you know which to close first
Your scored result tells you exactly how secure your boundary currently is

Run the audit below. Your security level and next step appear at the end.

One open high-risk gap makes the entire boundary technically permeable. The audit shows you exactly which of the 20 most common loopholes are still open — so you know precisely what to close first.

The No-Contact Security Audit


Check the gaps. Know your exposure.
Close the highest-risk ones first.

For each item, click once if this gap is currently open (red ✗). Click again if it is fully closed and verified (green ✓). Be honest — partial closures count as open.

This audit covers 20 of the 47 known no-contact loopholes. Each one represents a channel through which contact can occur — deliberately or accidentally. Even one open High-risk gap makes the entire boundary technically permeable.

📱 Phone & Direct Messaging

Primary phone number blocked — in device Settings AND carrier app. Both layers required or the block is incomplete.HIGH
iMessage blocked separately — iOS blocks SMS and iMessage independently. Blocking the number in Phone does not block iMessage.HIGH
WhatsApp, Telegram, Signal blocked — these bypass SMS blocks entirely. Each app requires its own independent block.HIGH
Unknown numbers silenced — iOS: Silence Unknown Callers. Android: Block Unknown. Without this, any new number they create gets through.HIGH
Voicemail drop loophole closed — services like Slydial can deposit a voicemail without calling. Disable or filter voicemail at the carrier level.MEDIUM

📧 Email

Primary email auto-deleted — Gmail: filter to delete. Outlook: rule to permanently delete. The email must never reach your inbox, not just go to spam.HIGH
Secondary and alias emails filtered — filter by display name, not just address. New email addresses from the same person can still reach you if you only filter the original.HIGH
Third-party forwarding briefed — trusted contacts told clearly not to forward messages. The relay person becomes a known channel the moment they forward anything.MEDIUM

📲 Social Media

Instagram: full block verified on web AND mobile — mobile blocks do not always sync to the browser version. Both must be confirmed separately.HIGH
Instagram: account set to private — blocking prevents direct contact but a public profile can still be viewed from any account including new ones.HIGH
Facebook AND Messenger blocked separately — Facebook and Messenger are separate systems. Blocking on Facebook does not block Messenger.HIGH
LinkedIn blocked — LinkedIn operates entirely separately from personal social media blocks. ‘Professional outreach’ is not a boundary exception.HIGH
Secondary accounts addressed — after being blocked, creating a new account is the most common workaround. Profile set to private and new follower requests restricted.HIGH
Mutual friends briefed — someone can monitor your content through a mutual’s account without you knowing. Close friends stories or full privacy setting required.MEDIUM

🔒 Physical & Shared Digital Spaces

Shared streaming and subscription accounts separated — shared Netflix, Spotify, or Apple accounts are contact channels. Passwords changed and access removed.MEDIUM
Shared cloud folders disconnected — Google Drive, Dropbox, iCloud shared folders allow file uploads that function as message delivery. Access revoked.MEDIUM
Known shared physical locations identified — regular spots (gym, coffee shop, school) where contact is foreseeable. Alternative arrangements in place.MEDIUM
Written boundary statement exists — a signed, dated document using absolute language (zero direct contact, effective date) shared with at least two accountability partners.HIGH
Monthly system check scheduled — apps update, settings reset, new platforms emerge. A monthly calendar reminder to verify all blocks are still active.MEDIUM
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Gaps Open
0
Gaps Closed
0 to 3 Gaps: Strong Boundary

Your technical boundary is largely in place. The remaining exposure is low-risk or already being managed. The Lighthouse Protocol will close the remaining gaps and give you the accountability structures and relapse protocol that keep the boundary permanent — not just current.

4 to 8 Gaps: Partial Boundary — Significant Exposure

Your boundary is partially in place but has enough gaps to make contact technically possible across multiple channels. The Lighthouse Protocol’s Digital Fortress Implementation Checklist closes all 23 high-risk loopholes in a single focused session. The 47-Loophole Elimination Matrix closes the rest.

9 to 14 Gaps: Boundary Has Major Vulnerabilities

The boundary currently exists more as intention than structure. Multiple high-risk channels are open. Contact is possible right now through at least two or three of them. The Lighthouse Protocol is specifically designed to address this — starting with the Digital Fortress phase that closes the most dangerous gaps first, in the right order.

15 to 20 Gaps: No Technical Boundary Yet in Place

There is currently no technical barrier between you and contact. Willpower alone is managing something that requires structure. The Lighthouse Protocol is exactly what this situation needs — it works through each channel systematically and makes contact technically impossible, not just unlikely.

The audit showed you the gaps.
The Lighthouse Protocol closes them — permanently.

The 23-point Digital Fortress checklist, the 47-loophole matrix, the accountability architecture, the relapse protocol, and the partner presentation playbook. Everything you need to build a boundary that runs on structure, not willpower.

Get The Lighthouse Protocol — $97 →

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Is this for you


This audit is for a specific moment

Not everyone going no-contact needs a 20-point technical audit. This is for the moment when you suspect your boundary has gaps you haven’t found yet.

No contact boundary audit security gaps checklist

This is for you if

  • You have tried to go no-contact before and it kept breaking down through channels you hadn’t thought of
  • You know you have blocked the obvious things but suspect there are gaps you haven’t found
  • You want a checklist, not just an intention, to know your boundary is actually secure
  • You are rebuilding trust with a partner and need a verifiable system, not just a promise
  • You want to know exactly which gaps are highest-risk so you know what to close first

This is not for you if

  • You are in immediate danger — please contact emergency services or a domestic abuse specialist first
  • You do not currently have or want a no-contact boundary in this situation
  • You want this audit to replace honest conversation with your partner rather than support it

From people who ran the audit


They found the gaps they didn’t know about

“I thought I had blocked everything. I had 7 gaps open, including iMessage, which I genuinely did not know was separate from blocking the number in Phone. That one gap alone explained why contact kept getting through.”
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Anna H.Rebuilding trust after discovery, June 2026
“The written boundary statement item was the one that hit me. I had blocked all the digital channels but never actually written anything down or told anyone. Having an actual document changed how seriously I took the whole thing.”
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Thomas R.No-contact for 4 months, May 2026

Who made this


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S.J.Howe

I write about the psychological and practical mechanics of affair recovery because understanding the mechanism is what changes outcomes. This audit is free because knowing your gaps is the starting point. The Lighthouse Protocol is the full system that follows.

The course gives you the complete Digital Fortress Implementation Checklist, the Accountability Architecture Blueprint, the Relapse Response Protocol, and the full 47-Loophole Elimination Matrix.

Before you wonder


Three things people ask before running this

“Won’t all this technical blocking feel paranoid or excessive?”

The audit is not about suspicion — it is about removing ambiguity. A clearly closed channel means neither person has to wonder whether contact is “possible but unlikely.” Most people report relief, not paranoia, once the structure is in place, because it ends the constant low-level vigilance that comes with an unverified boundary.

“What if I close the gaps and contact still happens through something not on this list?”

This audit covers 20 of 47 known loopholes — the most common ones. It is not exhaustive by design; it is meant to close the highest-risk channels fast. The Lighthouse Protocol’s full 47-Loophole Elimination Matrix covers the complete list, including the less common channels this audit does not.

“My partner doesn’t trust that I’ll actually do this. How is this different from just promising again?”

A verified technical closure is observable in a way a promise is not — either iMessage is blocked or it isn’t, either the written statement exists or it doesn’t. The Lighthouse Protocol’s Partner Presentation Playbook specifically reframes this from “trust my intentions” to “verify the system,” which is a fundamentally different conversation.

Inside the course


Everything in The Lighthouse Protocol

One course. One payment of $97. The complete system for building a no-contact boundary that runs on structure — not willpower, not promises, not hope.

🎧
The Lighthouse Protocol
The 45-minute core audio. Why willpower always fails and structure always wins. The Lighthouse Position, the Enforcer Position, and the exact framework for making contact technically impossible rather than just unlikely.
Core Audio
🏰
The Digital Fortress Implementation Checklist
23-point no-contact setup guide across 4 phases: Witness, Automate, Lock, Lighthouse. Tick each box only when the action is fully complete.
Part 2
🔆
The Accountability Architecture Blueprint
5 accountability structures that build safety without surveillance or daily check-ins. The Lighthouse Position vs the Enforcer Position.
Part 3
The Relapse Response Protocol
The exact 60-minute action plan for the first hour after contact — intentional or accidental. Four contact types with calibrated responses and disclosure scripts.
Part 4
🤝
The Partner Presentation Playbook
4-part opening structure and 7 word-for-word scripts for introducing the Lighthouse Protocol system to your partner.
Part 5
🗝️
The Loophole Elimination Matrix
All 47 known boundary workarounds across 9 categories — what each loophole is, how it gets used, how to close it, and the risk level if left open.
Part 6
🔐
The Top 10 Loophole Closer
The 10 loopholes responsible for 90% of no-contact failures — with exact closure instructions and 4 real-world scenario guides.
Part 7

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Intentions do not close loopholes. Structure does. The audit showed you exactly where your boundary is currently permeable. The Lighthouse Protocol closes every gap with a verified technical action — not a promise, not a decision to do better, but a system that makes contact structurally impossible.

Full course and all 7 parts included: $97

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